FRIDAY, JULY 20, 2018

The Expected Mile in Marriage

Marriage often finds us walking the extra mile. Or, it should. It’s not uncommon for a spouse to have to make concessions in an issue. The natural tendency is for us …

Marriage often finds us walking the extra mile. Or, it should. It’s not uncommon for a spouse to have to make concessions in an issue. The natural tendency is for us to balk at making an allowance to something we have a strong opinion about or have our heart and mind set on. But in the spirit of compromise, a smart couple relents and works out a solution that both can live with.

Many couples I counsel with get stuck at the non-compromise stage. Stubbornness sets in, and they become immovable, unwilling to go the extra mile to remedy a situation or to help their spouse lighten the load he/she carries, whether a burden or a particular task at hand.

Webby and I love serving each other, taking care of routine chores or unforeseen circumstances. When one of us has a crunched schedule, the other kicks in and takes over on the homefront and sometimes in each other’s profession to make life easier for the other. Webby daily out-serves me. It’s not often that I get to exceed his expectations of being his helpmate, but occasionally, I do surpass his service. It is a wonderful feeling. His appreciation of my efforts makes my service even more rewarding. It’s a great way to live out and in a marriage. Our love only grows deeper. This makes compromise in other situations a given. Amazing how the service works to gain respect and promote negotiation.


This extra mile we give one another is not an option. It is expected. God’s instruction for marriage is flawless. If you examine the Scriptures, it is obvious He not only shares the pattern for love as found in I Corinthians 13, but in Ephesians 5 He expects us to go the extra mile as He spells out the formula for a successful marriage. When the expected mile is incorporated into a marriage on a routine basis, longevity is the norm.

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